A common method of persuasion or manipulation is to say over and over what a person wants when their partner doesn’t agree. Maybe some people have learned to use this method out of their perceived powerlessness or that was the way people approach getting what they wanted in their family. So does this method work? I say no. It will eventually lead to conflict once the “nagged” partner notices what is taking place. This same spouse can achieve so much more by asking directly for what you want and most of all what you need. They may “cave in” for a period of time, but they will ultimately build resentment. The only approach that works is asking directly for what you want and being interested in what your partner needs too. Then you together can decide what you will do in partnership |
IF I SAY IT OVER AND OVER |