Will you still love me if I tell you the truth? Most people dating show their best selves. They even sometimes believe their act.

But we all know everyone has their sensitivities and hurts from the past. Now I’m not saying we all are emotional cripples. I’m just saying that mean teacher or emotionally absent parent had an effect on us. How that translates is maybe we need someone to take extra care to be kind in their communications with us, Or we need a partner who likes togetherness as much as us.

The truth is we often choose someone just like these disappointing people because how they behave feels familiar. If we do an honest inventory of our years before meeting this prospective partner, we can identify exactly what we are needing most.